June 2012
Oh my gosh, I am honestly IN LOVE with your blog. Do you think you could follow me? My blog is all about ED recovery too. It would mean so much to me.<3
Thanks! And yes! Absolutely ♥
are you good with advice ?
I like to think so…
To the anon who just said your reblog won't open on a new page, you can fix this yourself by holding down the ctrl button on your keyboard before you click reblog.
Brilliant! I’m going to look around but I do love my layout now ;)
please change your theme, i absolutely adore your blog but it is so hard to reblog because everytime I hit reblog it doesnt open a new page, which means I have to start all over again. please change it! <3
Oh nos! I guess I gotta look into this. Thanks for the heads up! ♥
Hi. I am pretty much weight restored, functioning pretty well at work and stuff, and have been able to stay out of intense treatment for over a year. But all I can think about is trying to lose the weight again. Even though I can admit that I felt awful, it was truly taking away the pain and separating from the fears of the real world. I feel like "being healthier", I am just going to suffer for a lot longer. I dont know how to do life and be around people without having bad anxiety.
Your ED can’t take away pain or fear. It does not have that capability. It can however numb and distract. But your problems keep existing. That why part of recovery is learning to manage and deal with issues and feelings that would otherwise send you running.
Are you in any sort of therapy now so that you can talk about these things? Social anxiety can be helped. People only learn how to “do life” by doing life. Believing in yourself and keeping your self-critical voice at bay is key.
There is hope ♥
May 2012
Your blog is absolutely brilliant and you are so kind to offer everyone such wonderful advice. Truly inspiring. I was wondering what you would say to someone who has suffered from ED for 10 yrs, seen therapists, knows everything there is to know about binging, restricting, exercising, ect and just can't over come it. I feel like people think I am just lazy or don't have will power...what are your tips?
The longer someone struggles with ED, the harder it seems to overcome. After 10 years, your eating disorder probably makes up a large portion of your identity, in your eyes, right? Breaking that down and creating a new identity is a LOT of work. And sometimes it just doesn’t seem worth it…so people stay sick.
Finding meaning and purpose in life - or better yet, creating some - seems to be what finally pushes long-term sufferers towards recovery. After my divorce, I finally realized that what I cared about more than my ED was one day being in a relationship again…and I knew that would never happen as long as I stayed sick. It’s different for everyone. You have to find the one thing that you want, more than thin, numb, controlled (whatever the ED gives you).
I believe EVERYBODY can recover though. I’ve seen people who were sick for 30+ years recover. It takes dedication…and a true belief in your own ability. I believe you can do it. Do you? ♥
